Ever since the announcement of my divorce people have begun to treat me differently.
They no longer feel as if they can share news about, marriage, babies, new homes, new adventures, and so on. Additionally, when they see me - they expect me to be sad down-trodden and incapable of surviving my day-to-day life. They expect to need to be my shoulder, the strong rock in the face of such adversity -
What they don't understand is that they are creating the very adversity they are trying to avoid.
The decision for the divorce was mutual, and it has been nearly a year at this point (okay maybe 10ish months - close enough) and I am no longer mourning this loss.
I am excited about your life and your exciting news. I want to share in the joys of your life, I want to be there with you, for you - in whatever way I can. Even that means a simple "congratulations" - I am the same person I was before, just minus a Husband.
What makes me different is the loss of friends that I have experienced since the divorce. My friends, I miss in a way that I cannot explain. I miss the connections, closeness, football games, movies, drinks & fun we experienced.
I understand a divorce is sticky and complicated - but I don't need your shoulder. I need your friendship.
Please let me back in to your life - because I miss you.
~Stephanie
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